The Brave Act of Saying “No”

One of the first words we learn when we’re little, yet one many of us find the hardest to execute- No.

However, we can’t live in abundance unless we learn to execute it.

Boundaries are a kingdom principle. God clearly lays out the markers and borders for every territory and tribe, carefully pointing out both what they should do and where they should go. Boundaries were set not to withhold, but to bless, giving access to blessings without being bound by lesser things that desired to consume.

My girls’ room can sometimes get cluttered. Often when we decide to clean it, we’ll find a toy that they’ve been searching for, but couldn’t find among the junk. Yet, it is still hard sometimes to get them to part with the things that “got in the way” so the cycle doesn’t happen again. 

The truth is, I’m no different.

When we are unwilling to embrace the places where God is calling us to say no, especially when a yes feels better, or sometimes more sensible, we will find ourselves resisting His offer not just for a deeper relationship with Him, but also access to His abundant living. 

𝐖𝐞 𝐜𝐚𝐧’𝐭 𝐬𝐞𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐠𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐚𝐦𝐚𝐳𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐇𝐞 𝐡𝐚𝐬 𝐝𝐞𝐬𝐢𝐠𝐧𝐞𝐝 𝐢𝐟 𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐥𝐢𝐯𝐞𝐬 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐨𝐨 𝐜𝐥𝐨𝐮𝐝𝐞𝐝 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐝𝐞𝐜𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐥𝐲 𝐠𝐨𝐨𝐝 𝐞𝐧𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡.

Brittany J. Turner

We don’t always have clarity about what we should do, but I can name a couple of places I have absolute clarity about things I should stop doing or believing. Maybe, just maybe, clarity will come for us as we lay firm foundations with our no. 

Maybe, 𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘴𝘦 𝘢𝘳𝘦 the brave steps that God is calling us to take. The ones that make room to see His best yes- yielding to things we need to stop as much as those we desire to start.

“For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared ahead of time for us to do.”

Eph 2:10 CSB

Can you believe it? God has set apart good things for us to do. He’s planned it in advance! Specific tasks that bring about HIs kind of good on the earth, designed just for us.

Could we be missing them in the clutter? What if what I really need to remove in my life in order to grow is my stubbornness in surrendering to HIs will, and trusting Him to know my capacity and capabilities best.

So be brave sister. For every single well placed and Spirit led “no” is a triumphant “yes” to the call of God to grow and flourish, not just in external foliage, but in actual fruit. 

It’s a call not just to purpose, but also to peace. 

Where is God nudging you to say “no”? Or, if you aren’t ready to share just drop a 🙅🏽‍♀️ in the comments below to let us know you’re walking in bravery too. 


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